I’ve been studying trauma release a great deal lately. Some of the symptoms that indicate one might be dealing with (or avoiding dealing with) trauma are: anxiety, depression, suicidal urges, the inability to “get comfortable” or feel at home in one’s own body… It seems that the patterns I have observed in my own clients are to similar to those observed by various clinical psychologists and psychiatrists over the years: a great many of us, if not most of us, have not been properly taught to live with, utilize, and process our emotions.
We avoid feeling our emotions in a number of ways. We may keep ourselves busy, or too distracted, so that we can “numb out” and not have to focus on the pain that comes up each time we slow down. We may eat comforting (read: high salt, sugar, fat) foods in excess, binge drink, avoid spending time alone… Coping itself isn’t inherently wrong, it’s actually completely necessary for survival. It’s when we become so completely disconnected from the fact that we are using coping mechanisms to get away from something, and have no idea that we are even doing it, that it becomes a problem. We become focused on the coping behaviour and entirely forget that anything was causing us to need to cope in the first place. The coping behaviour becomes habitual, we use it more often whether we need it or not, and then we’ve gotten ourselves on quite the freight train – challenging to jump off of at high speed.
Emotions are nothing to be afraid of. I know that sometimes emotions can seem overwhelming, like they will go on forever without reprieve. I know that sometimes it can feel like we just don’t have the time or emotional space to dedicate to dealing with our rampant emotions. Sometimes we can feel numb, quite literally feeling nothing, and it can be difficult to know how to move out of that space. It can be daunting to have the desire to deal with our emotions in a healthy way, without any real tools to move forward. I know it can all feel like it’s just too much.
But I promise you it isn’t.
I want to teach you what it took me an unbelievable amount of flailing, training, and research to learn: how to become friends with your emotions. I want to walk with you as you navigate your emotional landscape, as you listen to your own innate wisdom that has so much healing and relief to offer you. I want you to experience the joy of coming home to yourself.
In the coming weeks, I will be exploring various emotions, not just in their apparent mood states but also highlighting all the ways we use them to accomplish tasks without realizing it. I will be offering tried and tested tools and exercises to put you in greater touch with your own emotions, and what you can do to honor those emotions in others, too. We will explore each emotion’s unique messaging, what to do when the emotion can’t flow freely and gets stuck, and how to welcome and thank the emotions (to rewire the neurological patterns and habitual fear-based responses we often experience when disconnected from our natural emotional processes). If you’re interested in learning more right off the hop, I can’t recommend Karla McLaren’s “The Language of Emotions” enough; it has been extremely helpful for me along the way, and I’m sure you’ll find a lot of relevant information within the pages.
Thanks for stopping by! Blessings and peace to you.